Jill & Tyler, and their boys are a happy and loving family in Arizona that is excited to add to their family through adoption.
You can find out more about them by visiting their online profile.
From Jill:
A year and a half ago I had some medical problems that resulted in my hysterectomy.
I struggled with this decision because I didn't feel our family was complete. After much prayer and fasting this was still a struggle because medically this decision was being made for me and I didn't want to accept it. Reality was I didn't have any other options. Physically I could not carry a baby even if for some reason I got pregnant. Finally I had to come to terms with this loss and move forward. I had been doing a pretty good job of convincing myself that we were done. I was grateful for the three boys we had, they are a huge blessing, how could I ask for more. No more diapers, potty training, sleepless nights - we are good, our family is complete!
As hard as I tried to convince myself that our family was complete I knew in my heart it was not. There was another little spirit that was meant to bless our home. I would look at pictures of our family and feel like someone was missing. I would see little boys holding their little baby sister and it would make my heart ache. I wanted a little girl to share things with, play dolls, do her hair, play dress up, have the amazing friendship I have with my mom. I wanted Tyler to experience the love of a daughter. There is a special bond between a daddy and his little girl. I have loved having three brothers to look after, protect, and love me. They are better men today because they learned at a young age how to treat girls and have respect for women. Not that my brothers wouldn't have learned this on their own from my parents, but there is an eternal bond that exists with siblings and I want my boys to have that blessing. Even though I still felt like someone was missing, I didn't have a way for that baby to get here. It has made me really reflect on how precious a gift it is to be able to bring spirits, babies into this world. It is something that I took for granted because I COULD, I brought three incredible boys into this world but now I CAN'T, I no longer have that precious gift.
Awe, but maybe we do...
Tyler and I started talking about the idea of adoption. We have fasted and prayed a great deal about this because to us this is a HUGE responsibility, and a HUGE blessing! Yes, this baby may not physically look like Tyler and I, but we feel that spiritually there is a baby meant to come to our home. It hit me the other night as I was reading a blessing I was given. I have read this blessing a hundred times and this phrase has never had any significance until that day. It said "You were saved until this time to be born to wonderful parents" It hit me and I started to cry...
My feelings were always such: If I was supposed to have another baby, it would have come in one of the six miscarriages I had. It wasn't until that moment that I realized, THAT spirit wasn't supposed to come to the earth at that time. But it is NOW. I can't bring it here, but someone else can...through the miracle of adoption.
We are excited about what the future holds. Our boys are so excited to be big brothers, to take care and love a little sister. Our youngest tells me every time we go to the store, "mommy, I want to buy this for our baby. She will like it." They look forward to helping her explore this life and protecting her along the way. We feel that the Lord has and will continue to guide us, and you, in this journey according to His will.
From Tyler:
The delivery of our second son, Kaden, was especially traumatic and left Jill with a broken back, dislocated hips, tons of pain, and she ended up developing adenomyosis - essentially tumors were growing and causing even more pain. Luckily, we were able to have one more child on our own and Ashton was born a few years later. After Ashton was born the pain and health problems increased until medically Jill finally had to have a hysterectomy.
When Jill came out of surgery she woke up sobbing and crying about her baby. She was crying "I want my baby". At the time I thought it was very strange since she wasn't pregnant at the time. But, it made me realize that our family was not complete. It was clear to me that there was still another spirit destined to come to our family, and maybe she had had an interaction with that spirit while she was in surgery.
Since we have three boys we've decided to try and adopt a girl. Jill has a very special relationship with her mom - in a way that I've never seen before. I can't wait to see her have that same relationship with a little girl in our family.
When Jill & I started looking into adoption, I realized we were completely naive (and probably still are) about the process, the potential pitfalls, and the emotional ups and downs. But, after talking with many people who have been adopted and others who have adopted, we are both more excited than ever. I can’t wait to hold our baby girl in my arms.
