Saturday, December 26, 2009

Spotlight Saturday - A Happy Utah Family Hoping to Adopt Again

Please take a moment to get to know Ryan and Helen and their adorable little toddler, Emily.

You can find out more about them and contact them by visiting their adoption blog:

http://ryanhelenandemily.blogspot.com

Update: Congratulations to Ryan & Helen! They adopted a girl in July!

We met in the Fall of 1998. Helen was a senior in college, and competing on the women’s volleyball team. Ryan was a first year law student. Over the next several years we kept in touch. Helen served a full-time mission and started graduate school in Utah and Ryan started practicing law in California. Despite living in different states, we began dating and eventually fell in love. We were married a year later in December 2003.

Shortly after our wedding, Ryan was offered a job in Salt Lake City. We were thrilled to move close to most of Helen’s family, and we bought a house only one block away from one of Ryan’s older sisters. The house, a 1960’s rambler, needed some work, but we chose it because of its beautiful and convenient location.

After a couple of years and many doctors’ appointments, we learned that we will most likely never conceive children. Although it was sad, adoption was an easy choice for us. Helen has a sister who was adopted and we both have cousins who were adopted, so we knew how inspired adoptions are.

In October 2007, we were placed with a beautiful newborn and named her Emily. She has been an extraordinary blessing in our home and in our extended families. We adore her and thank Heavenly Father each day for her birth parents who selected us. We have an open relationship with them and have been blessed by their continued interest and support in Emily’s life. We love taking lots of photos and video of her milestones to share with them.

Ryan’s job as an attorney allows Helen to stay home with Emily. Helen loves getting to spend the whole day with Emily at home or out with friends and family. Emily goes to swimming lessons once a week, music class once a week, and frequently meet friends for lunch or a play date. In the summer Helen and Emily enjoy "cousin days". Each week they meet Emily's grandma, aunts and cousins to visit a zoo, museum, park, or pool.

Before Emily was born, we adopted two cats from the animal shelter. They are quirky, but we love them. Emily especially loves the cats and is learning how to pet them and play with them.

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Thursday, December 24, 2009

The Magic


We ran into the big man himself and "Mrs. Santa Claus" (as Carter calls her) on Christmas Eve. Carter was thrilled -- seriously, he was so excited! He kept smiling and laughing in a blown-away kind of way. It was like magic! They were the sweetest Santa and Mrs. Claus I've ever met. SO glad we got pictures with them for Ruby's first Christmas, too!

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Sunday, December 20, 2009

Peace


I have a family here on earth.
They are so good to me.
I want to share my life with them through all eternity.

Families can be together forever
Through Heavenly Father's plan.
I always want to be with my own family,
And the Lord has shown me how I can.
The Lord has shown me how I can.

(words by Ruth M. Gardner, from the hymn Families Can Be Together Forever)


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Cousins!

Carter loved having his CA cousins in town for Ruby's adoption finalization and sealing.

Carter loves "Lukie"...

and Ty...

and Mikelle (and Cole, Crew, Chad, and Nicole). We all do!

We promised Carter that if he was quiet and happy in the temple, we'd do some model rocket launches. He did awesome! We took a fun and quick little trip to the park before Chad & Nicole's family left for home. The kids all loved it!

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Saturday, December 19, 2009

Our Little Secrets: The Design Loft

As a couple building our eternal family through the miracle that is adoption, we try to do everything we can to make sure we find the children that are meant for our family. We want to open doors, as many as possible, through which our child's birth family may discover us. One way to do that is through pass-along cards and/or pamphlets. They are easily shared with family members and friends who then share them with anyone they can. We wanted to share with you one of our little secrets in this process...The Design Loft.

Cynthia at The Design Loft designed these beautiful pamphlets and pass-along cards for our adoption efforts and we could not have been more pleased. We were chosen before we had the pamphlets printed, but many who received those pass-along cards in our Christmas cards last year commented on how great they looked. She made the process so simple, straight-forward and affordable. Just wanted to share with any of our hopeful adoptive friends this great resource!

Check out http://thedesignloft.blogspot.com/, http://thedesignloftonline.com/ or contact Cynthia (cynthia@thedesignloftonline.com) with any questions you might have today!

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Spotlight Saturday - An Oregon Family With Lots of Love to Share

Please take a moment to get to know Greg & Michelle and their two boys. You can find out more about them and contact them by visiting their adoption blog:

http://greg-michelle-noah-sam.blogspot.com/

Greg & Michelle, Noah & Sam

We are excited to add to our family through adoption. Adoption has been the hugest blessing of our lives and we are ready to adopt again.

A few years after getting married and after being unable to achieve pregnancy, we felt strongly that we should adopt our first child. It was a very spiritual decision and we were overjoyed to be chosen relatively quickly by a mature and amazing woman. We knew little about birth mothers before we met her -- besides they were brave and selfless. As soon as we met her we felt a connection to her so deep we could hardly explain how much we loved her to others. We thought we were so lucky to have an angel birth mother in our lives. When she placed her precious baby with us, the love we felt for Noah was overwhelming. The first night we had him we unwrapped his blanket to change his diaper and just stared in awe at our tiny and perfect little boy. We knew right then and there that adoption had changed us. We loved being parents and loved the friendship we had formed with Noah's birth mother. In those first few weeks and months we knew she was suffering, but her strength made us want to be better. We tried hard from the very beginning to be the kind of parents that would make her proud.

A year later we began infertility treatments again. After a few short months of doctor's visits, we weren't getting anywhere and we knew for certain that we had another baby boy that would come through adoption. We began the adoption process again and after a two-year wait, we were again chosen by a beautiful birth mother. We were so lonely for Sam before he came to our family that sometimes the sadness was unbearable. It was a miracle when his birth mother first emailed us and will be a day we will never forget. We spent several months getting to know her through her pregnancy. By the time Sam was born, we shared deep concern and love for her and all she had already endured to ensure his save arrival. We met Sam for the first time the day after he was born. He was laying on the hospital bed, curled up in a tiny ball. Our hearts immediately recognized his sweet spirit as the one we could feel here and there as we waited for him to come to us.

During the night when I would feed baby Sam, I would often feel overwhelming love and joy for my boys. I hoped and prayed during those late hours that more babies would come to us. We love adoption and know how wonderful it can be for the birth parents, their families, us as adoptive parents, our families who pray along with us for more babies, and especially for the children who will grow up knowing they are loved and adored by so many people.

One of the biggest joys of our lives has been the way Noah treats his little brother, Sam. Noah is totally obsessed with his brother and never once has shown any sort of jealousy or frustration about having to share his parents, his toys, or anything. Noah likes to share his room with Sam because Sam “protects him” during the night. And Noah often tells us how badly he wanted Sam and how the day Sam was born was the best day of his life. The boys have a very tight bond and we hope to continue to encourage that bond as they get older. Much of our motivation for adopting again was because of the amazing love Noah and Sam share. Another baby would be so lucky to be nurtured by these two older brothers.

We are passionate about adoption and are so thankful this is the way our family was meant to be created. We wouldn't have it any other way!

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Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Officially Ruby!

Carter is officially a big brother. Ruby is officially a little sister. And we are officially speechless!


There is so much I could write about what an amazing experience it was to have Ruby's adoption finalization, sealing, and blessing all happen this past week. But time is short, and rather than delay this post any longer trying to figure out some way to put our feelings into words, I'd like to share some pictures from finalization day.

Outside the courthouse.

Both sets of our parents flew down for the occasion. Ruby loved meeting Grandma Kengie, Grandma Linda, Grandpa Russ, and Grandpa Gary for the first time.
Joe & Claudia also took off work to be there.
Thanks so much for the support!

We want to give a special thanks to Cali Tidwell (our case worker)
and Brent Ellsworth (our attorney).
It's thanks to both of them that we were able to finalize when Ruby was only 4 months old!

Judge Thompson decreed the adoption as final.

Grandma Kengie and Ruby after the finalization

Carter joined in too!

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Saturday, December 12, 2009

Spotlight Saturday - Waiting for the "Wright" baby

Lincoln, Megan and John Henry are a great family in Washington state. They have been actively involved in the adoption community while they have been waiting to adopt. You can find out more about them and contact them by visiting their adoption blog:

http://mightbebabywright.blogspot.com

Update: Congratulations to Lincoln & Megan! They adopted a boy in February!

We like to have fun and often err on the side of silliness. We like to TRAVEL and see new things. Some of the fun places we have been are: British Columbia, Oregon, California, New York and Washington DC.

We also enjoy playing board GAMES. Some of our favorite games are Settlers of Catan, gin, and cribbage. We also like “The Bean Game.” We don’t know what it’s really called because neither of us speak German and the whole game is in German, but we have a lot of fun making up our own names for the cards.

When we get a bit of FREE TIME Link likes to spend it swimming and paint-balling. Megan loves to knit and even spins and dyes much of her own yarn. John Henry loves to listen to music, go swimming, and play with our family dogs, Maggie and Logan.

Of course, if you want to play hard, you have to WORK hard first, and we know all about that. Lincoln has a bachelor’s degree in Biochemistry and a Doctorate of Pharmacy. He works as a pharmacist in a hospital. Megan has a bachelor’s degree in History and as of writing this is three classes away from her Master’s degree in Business (Hurray!) She goes part time in the evenings so that she can spend her days with John Henry (and his brothers and sisters, eventually!)

We have a big extended FAMILY that we visit or are visited by several times a year. Since Lincoln's brother has ADOPTED TWO CHILDREN, our families know how wonderful adoption can be and are already eagerly waiting the next grandchild, nephew/niece, or cousin.

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Sunday, December 06, 2009

She's Four Months Old Today

I'm her momma, so I might be a bit biased,
but I think she's stunning.

and sweet...

and adorable.

She thinks her fingers are tasty...

and also likes to eat other things, like chairs.

She makes great faces (and poses).

And she is 4 months old today.
I am overwhelmed by how fast it has gone and yet I feel like she's been with us forever.

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My Tricycle

Or, "my tri-ci-cycle," as Carter likes to call it. This trike was a total score that Megan's mom found at a garage sale in Utah. She sent it down with Eliza, our niece, when she came to meet Ruby (thanks guys!).

It took him a few tries to get the hang of it, but now he really cruises. He loves riding it around the sidewalk loop in front of our house




(Yes, those are two different shoes he has on, but we thought the fact that they were on the right feet is progress!)

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Saturday, December 05, 2009

Spotlight Saturday - A Wonderful Phoenix Family Hoping to Grow!

Rick and Christi are so excited about welcoming a new child to their home through adoption. Their adorable daughter Bella is anxious to be a big sister. Please take a moment to get to know them. You can find out more about them and contact them by visiting:

http://afamilytoadopt.com

Update: Congratulations to Rick & Christi! They adopted a girl in April!

We first met through mutual friends. As time went by, we kept running into each other, and eventually we became good friends. After a few months of friendship and laughter, we began dating, and have been happily married since 1996.

We always knew we wanted children, and in 2003, our daughter Bella was born. Christi, who was working as a marriage and family therapist prior to Bella's arrival, left her job to be a stay at home mom. We have always felt incredibly fortunate that Christi has been able to stay at home to raise Bella, and she eagerly looks forward to doing the same when our next child arrives. Rick works in technical support, and his office is less than 15 minutes away from our home and he is home from work most nights by 5:30.

As a family we enjoy spending time together going swimming, playing games, going to the park at the end of our street, playing with our dogs, having family movie nights and spending time with our family and friends. We love to visit Disneyland and take a few short trips there each year. We love going to the beach in San Diego, California each summer. We also enjoy going to Pinetop in Northern Arizona for the Fourth of July each year with Christi's parents, grandparents, and her brothers, sister, and their families. We go hiking, ride the go-karts, watch the fireworks while eating ice cream, and enjoy the cool weather while having a great time with our family.

We share a lot of love and laughter, and we hope to have another child join our family and share in those special times with us.

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Friday, December 04, 2009

November Flashback

Our November blog posts were almost entirely dedicated to adoption to celebrate National Adoption Month. It is such an integral and wonderful part of our lives that we love sharing our feelings about adoption any chance we get.

Here is a whirlwind look at what else was going on in our family last month:

The weather was beautiful and Carter couldn't get enough of being outside.


He and the Roobster loved being together. We had to break the sad news to Carter that he wouldn't be able to marry her, or Mommy, no matter how big he gets.

He came up with the craziest ways to have fun.


Megan treated us with some pumpkin apple streusel lovin' from the oven.


Ruby kept growing and loved entertaining herself in her Bumbo.


What's going on here? We were wondering the same thing. Apparently, the sun was too bright.


Ruby turned 3 months old (almost four by month's end).
(The onesie is from Mrs. R's etsy shop)


Thanksgiving at Joe & Claudia's was awesome!
That turkey centerpiece is a cake they received as a gift from the family of their exchange student, Alex.


We made the Yams & Apples.


Megan is completely smitten with our little one.


Ruby cashed in on the quiet time while everyone was eating.


The M family joined the crowd for Thanksgiving dinner. They had us take a family picture for them.

As did the P family the following day.

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Thursday, December 03, 2009

Smile!

Ruby was happy to get this dress in a package today from "Aunt" Monica.
I couldn't seem to get a good smile out of her...

Carter had better luck.

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We're still here!

We did not disappear. We are doing well and marching forward as we enter busy, busy December. December holds a lot of excitement for our little family. We've been really swamped getting ready for this:The boutique will not only have lots of cute stuff to buy, it will be featuring local adoptive families as vendors in support of adoption! Hooray for adoption, hooray for Christmas and hooray for cute things and great gifts! ;) We hope we'll see all of you locals there!

Stay tuned for photos/posts of Thanksgiving, etc.

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Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Tweeting Tueday

A sampling of adoption related posts floating around on Twitter this week

We're pulling for the R house. Hopefully next week, their contested adoption will FINALLY be finalized.
therhouse only EIGHT MORE DAYS (full days) to endure before the appeal period is officially over. single digits, baby!

therhouse Bawl with me ....Gavin's birth certificate just came in the mail. Almost makes finalization seem real. Almost.

Saturday was National Adoption Day!
mydadjosh Happy National Adoption day! Today I'm very very grateful for the blessing of adoption in my life.

Izziland Izzi and I would like to wish all the families brought together through the blessing of adoption a very happy National Adoption Day!

natadoptionday After tomorrow, 30,000 foster care children will have been adopted over the 10 yrs of Nat'l Adoption Day!

There were quite a few thought-provoking tweets.
MyAdoptionAdvsr Spoke about adoption at local high school. Someone always asks, "Who named the baby?"


aalexisi A thought...if we make abortion easier to get, then shouldn't we make adoption easier to do too? I mean, multiple choices.

memoriadei: There are unwanted pregnancies but no unwanted babies. adoption the best choice

Kathy_Johnson One in five children who are waiting in foster care to be adopted will have to leave the system without a family at age 18 or 21.

jasonkovacs What are your thoughts on disrupting birth order in adoption? Good, bad, unsure? I have no idea, I'm sincerely asking.

Kathy_Johnson November is National Adoption Month. 129,000 kids in the US are waiting for a family. http://bit.ly/DOoMQ

Everyone is raving about the new adoption/foster care related movie, The Blind Side.
MarcAndreas I loved The Blind Side which brought in $34.5 million in its first 2 days w/ high ratings. Go check it out. What a great adoptionstory!

Some were worried that ABC's new show "Find My Family" would disregard the role of the adoptive family when reuniting adoptees with their birth families. The show premiered last night and most people had positive feedback on it.
ReneeDeLuca I don't think I can watch that "Find My Family" show every week. Five minutes and I was a mess. Plus, I've lived it!!!

MollieK Watching Find My Family. I didnt want to like it. Darn it!

Izziland I hope when Izzi wants 2 meet her birth family it will be done with more dignity This seems so staged, not organic. Really didn't like intro

The show Glee (yeah, we love it too) has a storyline right now where one of the Glee club members is pregnant. The Glee club teacher's wife is pretending to be pregnant to keep her marriage together. She wants to adopt the girl's baby and pretend she delivered it herself. It's weird and impossible, so it always stirs a few comments.
firemom I'm fully caught up on the Glee season. Any other people touched by adoption having an issue with certain things? But, gosh, I love it.

There were some great blog posts related to adoption.
yarnnation Blog post on how to avoid adoption scams. http://tr.im/FgVk

KatieBQ Finally blogged about FSA Regional Conference in Portland...read all about it! http://tinyurl.com/yacoj9y

As always, people shared small, but meaningful pieces of their own adoption stories.
coffeetalkwc Almost aborted; adopted & given great life instead & parents died 2008; reunited w/ entire bio. family since 1998

erinannie *deep breath* just put in application to foster to adopt one specific girl. 4 weeks before I can expect to hear back!

jamieworley Not one, but two caseworker visits today. But less than a month til Lindsey's adoption!

vitafamiliae Last home study interview, TONIGHT! And this time, she's talking to the kids. I want a voice recorder...

mattbooshwaa It's getting hard 2 keep my heartless image when I'm crying every week @ our after school prog. b/c we r watching Lifetime adoptionmovies

angeecolvin So grateful for the spirit and how I have been led to the point I am at. SOOO grateful for adoption and the joy I feel when I talk about it.

yarnnation still working away on our new profile. It has to be printed first thing tomorrow am. adoption is a lot of work.

adoptionart Just got done writing a Christmas letter to my youngest child's birthmom in Guatemala

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Saturday, November 21, 2009

Spotlight Saturday - Michigan won our hearts

Matt & Courtney - a fun-loving couple in Michigan hoping to adopt

This week's spotlight is especially meaningful to us because our sweet Ruby was born in Dearborn and we spent our first two weeks with her in Michigan as we waited to bring her home. We met some very loving and generous families while we were there that helped the miracle of her adoption happen.

Please take a moment to get to know Matt and Courtney. You can find out more about them and contact them by visiting their online profile:

http://tinyurl.com/mattcourtney

or their adoption blog

http://flyboynshutterbug.blogspot.com

Please let us introduce ourselves. We are Matt and Courtney. We want to share more openly who we are as a family. We want to share the things we do that make us Matt and Courtney.

Well, we might as well start at the beginning! Here's our story of why we're hoping to adopt someone special! We decided a few years ago that we wanted to expand our family. We, of course, started trying...We heard it's supposed to be pretty easy. lol But about 18 months later we found out that we aren't physically able to conceive children. After numerous doctor visits and many hours in prayer we decided that our family would grow through adoption.

We felt that it didn't matter if we aren't physically able to bear children...we are physically, spiritually, and emotionally able to be PARENTS! We strongly believe that family is what you make it! That you don't have to be born into a family to belong there. And by the sealing powers of the priesthood, the children that we parent, will enjoy the blessings of an eternal family.

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Friday, November 20, 2009

Finding Friday - Part 3: Pass-Along Cards

Before I start, I'll reiterate the love and respect we feel for our children's birth mothers, and for the many birth mothers we've met along our adoption journey. The purpose of these efforts in "finding" is to help make a connection with an expectant mother who has chosen to place her child for adoption, not to pressure or judge any woman who has found herself in the difficult position of an unexpected pregnancy. Choosing between adoption and single parenting is a very personal and sacred decision in our eyes.

Finding Friday - Part 3: Pass-Along Cards
In Finding Friday part 1 I talked about letting all your friends and family know that you are certified to adopt through an email blitz and/or a holiday newsletter. This is a great first step, and probably the most important.

Getting yourselves online (see part 2) by setting up your online agency profile, as well as an adoption website or blog is also essential. Having information about yourselves online makes it easy for people to pass on your information, and allows a prospective birth family to find out a little about you without the need to contact you first.

It can also be helpful to set up a non-identifying email address specifically for adoption. We chose an address that doesn't include our last names, and most email accounts let you change the settings so that your last name doesn't show up in emails you send out. We have no problem sharing our names, email addresses, cell phone numbers, etc. with our children's birth mothers, but we are careful about what we make available to the whole world.

We also set up an 800 number through Kall8.com so that anyone can contact us from any phone - even a pay phone. We don't have our number posted online for privacy reasons and to avoid prank calls, but having an 800 number played a crucial role in Ruby's adoption and we were so glad we had one set up.

Pass-Along Cards
Once you have a variety of ways in place for people to contact you, pass-along cards are a great way to spread the word that you are hoping to adopt. We included our adoption website, email address, and agency online profile. You could also include your 800 number. We loved our cards designed by spacesforfaces.com for our cards, and weve heard of others using vistaprint.com.
You can pass these cards out everywhere you go. We included a few in each of the Christmas newsletters we sent out so our friends and family can have them handy if they hear of an expectant mother considering adoption.

You can leave them with your check at restaurants. I've left them at bus stops/bus seats, redbox kiosks, gas pumps, rest stops, and in free newspaper boxes. We never had a contact come from leaving them at these random places, but that doesn't mean it couldn't happen, and we wanted to open any doors we could.

You can also ask to post them on bulletin boards at libraries, grocery stores, laundromats, apartments, cafes, car washes, etc. Leave some with your health care professionals - OB/GYN, pediatrician, dentist, etc. Hair dressers are great resources as well (Here is an example of a recent successful placement involving a hair stylist and pass-along cards). Get creative! At around 5 cents a piece for your cards, it's not a big investment to spread them around.

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Thursday, November 19, 2009

WE MADE IT INTO THE FINALS!!!

Don't tell me you can honestly look at this face and not go vote for her! ;)Thank you!

Because of our dear friends and family, we managed to make it into the top nine of the Ohdeedoh Small Kids, Big Color 2009 competition. Please help Ruby Jane stay in the top three by clicking on the link above and voting for us in the semifinals within the next 24 hours!
Here is one of our entry pictures. If you are having trouble voting, see the instructions in the next post. To see the original entry click here.

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